When Successful Men Lose: relationship breakdown in high performing men with Puya Delavar

Feeling off, even though everything looks great on paper?

You’re not alone.

In this episode of The Miller Hour Podcast, I speak with Puya Delavar, a Relationship Crisis Coach for high-performing men, about why so many guys in their 30s, 40s and 50s are silently struggling with relationship breakdown.

Is personal success costing men their relationships?

We cover what every stressed-out man needs to hear:

...how emotional health and metabolic health are connected

...what your blood tests aren’t telling you

...and why traditional therapy or diets don’t always work.

If you're searching for answers about low energy, performance dips, emotional disconnection, or want a full men’s health MOT, this episode will hit home.

The Success Trap: relationship breakdown in high-performing men

Success comes at a cost. We see it every day in the clinic: men who appear to be thriving externally — great career, family, finances — but inside, they’re completely burnt out.

They’re tired all the time. Snapping at their partners. Struggling to sleep. Libido's gone. And despite eating "well" and going to the gym, their bloodwork paints a different story: raised cortisol, low testosterone, poor metabolic flexibility.

It’s a slow leak, not a blowout. But left unchecked, it leads to chronic health issues, emotional shutdown, and relationship breakdown.

Puya’s Story: From Collapse to Clarity

In this episode, Puya shares his own turning point: the moment his doctor told him to quit his job or face complete collapse.

He was burned out, emotionally numb, and on the edge of losing his marriage.

That experience didn’t just lead to healing. It lit a fire. Today, Puya coaches men going through similar crises, helping them rebuild emotional connection without blowing up their lives or careers.

His framework, Crisis to Connection, is a game-changer. And it’s deeply aligned with what I see in practice: that emotional stress is one of the biggest, most overlooked drivers of poor hormonal and metabolic health.

Why Men Struggle With Emotional Health

We talked about the elephant in the room: most men have never been taught how to process emotion. We were taught to "man up," suppress, compartmentalise, and carry on.

But the cost? It shows up in our bodies.

Emotional suppression increases inflammation, disrupts sleep, reduces testosterone, and drives stress eating, drinking, and addiction patterns. And it bleeds into relationships — the tension, the shutdown, the slow drift into disconnection.

Rebuilding health means learning how to feel again. Not just to cry or vent — but to regulate, connect, and lead with clarity.

Testosterone, Connection, and the Biology of Vitality

Your hormones aren’t just about muscle mass or libido. Testosterone is deeply influenced by your emotional environment. Chronic stress, poor sleep, and relationship conflict all tank your T levels.

What makes this episode powerful is that we linked the emotional to the biological. I shared what I see in DEXA scans, resting metabolic rate tests, and blood work in men who are “doing everything right” but still feel wrecked.

Fixing this isn’t about more supplements. It’s about integration: biological support + emotional growth + behavioural structure.

Puya’s Framework: Crisis to Connection

We walked through Puya’s methodology step by step:

1. Awareness — Spotting the subtle signs before breakdown hits.

2. Behaviour Shift — Interrupting patterns with daily, non-negotiable anchors.

3. Emotional Connection — Rebuilding presence with partners and self.

4. Leadership Integration — Showing up with clarity at work, home, and within.

   
   

It’s simple, but not easy. And it requires a man to commit to growth on every level — not just in the gym, but in his nervous system, his relationships, and his routines.

Final Thoughts: You’re Not Broken, You’re Misaligned

This episode is a wake-up call. If you’re a man who feels like you’re doing everything you should — but something still feels off — don’t ignore it.

Your body keeps score. Your relationship feels the impact. Your kids notice the difference.

But the good news? It’s reversible.

You don’t need to be broken to want better.

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🔗 Links & Resources

• Work with Puya: https://www.puyadelavar.com

• Book your full health MOT: https://www.millerhealth.london

• Related blog: Gut Health, Brain Fog & Libido — The Hidden Link Most Men Ignore

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